Dear I'm Pregnant #2

• Dear I’m pregnant 

As I have just begun my day, the morning chores accomplished, the first cup of coffee drank. My adult, firstborn son (practice child #1, as we comically say,) on his way to work, drops his beloved Labrador at our house. My thoughts are to write you another note. 
I imagine you laying in your cozy bed, a million thoughts swirling in your head, each one battling for priority. Your room small, with just a hue of light trickling in. From the eyes of my imagination, two opponents are duking it out. 

• Opponent #1, The bedroom door, and all the issues that stand on the other                      side of it and
• Opponent #2, The monster in the room called “Woulda, Shoulda, Coulda.”

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Currently, I assume that the “issues” on the other side of the door are ignorant that you are pregnant. Obviously, you are exerting a tremendous amount of energy keeping it “Secret.” 
In the best scenario, as family members, we should never be afraid of the response of         Ma & Pop Issues. Please consider the history of your relationship. If they are the best scenario, your response to them should also be (the best scenario) one of honor and trust. 
Now the hard part. If the history of response from Ma & Pop Issues has its faults, weaknesses, and shortcomings, welcome too difficult and imperfect parenting. 
There isn’t a decision found in eternity that can remove the fact that you are a mother.      The difficult reply to put on the table is the same as above.
Your response has the opportunity to choose (the best scenario) within you! 

Mr. Woulda, Shoulda, Coulda, WSC for short. 
This monster has crawled out from under your bed to torment you for a lifetime. WSC eats princesses for breakfast and uses their tiara as repeaters from cell towers. He broadcasts on the devices you carry for life, playing the same tune, over and over again. It’s a small world, after all, it’s a small world, after all, stealing your hopes, dreams, and courage to explore a wonderful big plan for your life. He is the real enemy!
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Relationships, family, boyfriends, husbands, even girlfriends, ebb and flow through life. Some look at conflict and trials, with a response to simply buy a different set of sunglasses. It’s easier to “shade” the brightest light than to soak in its truth and illumination. 

The “Best scenario” people, love you for you. Love does not mean agreement. Love responds with: I will draw you closer to me even though your decisions are scaring the bujezzies out of me. And they also say, I’d like to talk with you about how those scary decisions make me feel. LOVE bravely communicates. 
A very significant link on the huge subject of communication.
Danny Silk. Loving on purpose. Read his testimony.  I trust and value his ministry. 

Now back to WSC, with a bit of a breakdown of his name.
Woulda, Shoulda, Coulda definitions;
*Would: always talks about your future from the limits of your past.
*Should: hangs guilt over you to coerce through fear, duty, or expectation.
*Could: sets up a permanent bench at a crossroads, confusing your “I can” from moving forward 
 *a: a weak suffix following opportunity
How do you destroy a monster? 

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(The best scenario) again.
​In my life, a very tried and trusted friend called Forgiveness. 

Activations:

• *I forgive myself. For allowing WSC to manipulate who I am.
• (Princess with Tiara)
• *I forgive others. For responding from there woulda, shoulda, could-a's.          
• (A good time to see into the lives of others, and reflect that WSC has been broadcasting repetitious crap before you were born)

*I forgive myself and others for the past. Period! No, if, and or buts!
The only response you are in charge of is your own. Forgiveness is not conditional if another receives or chooses to forgive. Forgiveness belongs to you. 
​Just a thought? Princess with Tiara’s gives birth to a royal line, it's in the blood.
To really change the past, the poor decisions we made yesterday. 
“The best scenario” grabs a broom and dustpan. Yup, responsibility has elbow grease involved. Sweeps with forgiveness and steps valiantly forward into one's crossroads, even if another pair of hands are there to hold. 
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​I believe in you, I love you,
and yes you have the courage to change. The first change is you. 
Kristen ​​.

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